When you were a child or if you have your family, when you were raising your children, do you have any family rules?
My family has family rules.
Today, I’ll introduce one of the rules.
When raising children, surely, we have troubles. In these times, how do we respond in such a case?
Here are the rules regarding that.
The response process is as follows.
~ Details ~
① CALM WARNING
② 5 MIN TIME OUT
→ Sit in one place and stay 5 minutes quietly.
③ 20 LINES (POSITIVE AFFIRMATION)
→ Parents write the first sentence and children write same sentence repeatedly on a piece of paper. The sentence and number of lines is different depending on the trouble.
④ FAMILY MEETING
Based on this process, parents respond flexibly depending on the situation at the time.
The rules are written on a piece of paper.
Moreover, on the paper, it is written not only the response process but also about the best way to approach the children when they are creating trouble.
STAY CALM
This is the word which is especially emphasized on the rules paper.
Also, it is written something like this too.
IF PARENTS / GRAND PARENTS GET
ANGRY OR ESCALATED
↓↑
CHILDREN GET
ANGRY OR ESCALATED
Father and Mother always tell their children to be calm at first regardless of how troubles happened.
Of course, they are calm as well, they never bellow out of their emotion.
Talking to each other in calm state and resolving any troubles.
It may not go well every time but I think how the family deal with troubles will be different if they share the rules or not.
The rules paper is posted on the fridge and everyone uses it every day.
It is a guide for our family’s life.
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